While there are many attributes to be found pleasing about any woman, for the refined aesthetic one need look no further than the curve of the back. There are few things in the world which will elicit a more profound primal response than this simple motion.
“Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding… And could you keep your heart in wonder at the daily miracles of your life, your pain would not seem less wondrous than your joy” — Kahlil Gibran
“In fact her maturity and blood kinship converted her passion to fever, so it was more affliction than affection.
It literally knocked her down at night, and raised her up in the morning, for when she dragged herself off to bed, having spent another day without his presence, her heart beat like a gloved fist against her ribs.
And in the morning, long before she was fully awake, she felt a longing so bitter and tight it yanked her out of a sleep swept clean of dreams.”
~ Toni Morrison Song of Solomon
A notion uncommon among the so-called “dominants” of today: a true Dominant is in control of themselves first, before ever a submissive gives their will to us. Refinement is not simply a matter of culture; it is a matter of character, a matter of self-discipline.
If a Dominant cannot control themselves, how ever shall he or she teach you the mastery of your own Self?
There are a lot of misconceptions about D & S, and it’s commonly compared to abusive relationships, which isn’t fair nor accurate. There isn’t much variance between my relationships as a submissive and one’s I’ve had that the average person would consider “normal”; the primary difference is there are very distinct roles in the relationship.
I guess the best way for me to explain it is: I am his property, and though I’m his property and I belong to him I’m his favorite possession. There’s a lot of passion involved from both parties. There’s nothing unhealthy about accepting a role as a submissive, but rather it’s the embracing of my womanhood and my desire to be there for my partner.
Those who follow this blog will see me use this phrase repeatedly, creating a dividing line in perception between the True Dominant and someone who is just “dominant.” This implied divisiveness is intentional, the distinction between the two deliberate, in order to bring to awareness the distinction between the common perception and the Truth.
The role of the True Dominant is a sacred one, as was taught to me by my mentor when I was still just a pup, and as such it creates an atmosphere of liberty to cross boundaries, shatter taboos and discover the inner nature. It does this by engendering a complete and total release of any will, any choice, by submitting completely to the True Dominant.
While it is not uncommon for there to ensue all manner of sexual misadventures, all of which are targeted at breaking down walls, this is not the actual point. The actual point is to release and regain the inner nature, by whatever path is required, and to achieve that goal the True Dominant frees the submissive to rise like the proverbial angel.
This, then, is the role of the True Dominant, and why it is considered sacred by those who practice it,